How Finding Your Flow Helps You to Change Your Life

  • Don’t know where to start
  • Don’t know what you’d do next
  • Haven’t got skills in any other career
  • Need to pay the bills
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When you HATE your job

When you get into a situation where you feel you hate your work, you’ve gone too far down a road of dissatisfaction. What do I mean by that? I mean that no one hates everything they do. Even if you feel like there’s nothing positive about the work situation you’re in right now, there is, there was likely more at some point in the past, and there can be again.

Learn what is wrong with where you are

Here we will explore your current reality. We’ll look in-depth at what you enjoy and don’t enjoy about your work. You may feel that you hate everything about your current job, but I assure you that you don’t. There will be snippets in there that you enjoy, and we’ll work together to find them. We’ll use those breadcrumbs as clues to help you to shape your future career into the work you love.

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Activity 1 — Getting to Know You

Over the next week, throughout the day, I’d like you to record how you feel while completing your work tasks.

  • Positive and I’m good at it
  • Positive but I’m not good at it
  • Negative and I’m good at it
  • Negative and I’m not good at it

Now, what do I do?

  • The activities that fall into the positive and good at category are things you need to be doing more.
  • The activities that fall into the positive and not good at category are things you need to be doing more of, but you need to polish your skills to continue to make these tasks enjoyable.
  • The activities that fall into the negative category are those you need to delegate, or automate — whether you’re good at them or not.

But, the activity takes a whole week!

The ‘Getting to Know You’ activity takes time to complete, but it is necessary. It catches you when you’re in a moment rather than allowing you to look back at scenarios and judge them in retrospect. However, the retrospect view is valuable too.

Activity 2 — Diving Deeper

In this activity, you will find a series of questions that relate to how you feel about your workday from when you get up to go to work to when you get home. Think carefully about your day and jot down answers to these questions.

Getting up

  • What do you think about work when it first enters your head?
  • How do you nourish yourself for the day? What do you eat/drink for breakfast?
  • What do you wear? Do you apply make-up / do something with your hair? Do you have a choice of outfit? How do you feel about your work-wear?

Leaving the house

  • What do you like/dislike most about leaving for work?
  • What time do you leave for work? What time do you start? How do you feel about these times?
  • What is your commute? What do you like/dislike about your commute to work? Be specific.

At work — morning (if you don’t work typical 9–5 hours, adjust the questions to meet the times when you work)

  • What happens when you arrive at work? Does anyone greet you? How do they welcome you? How do they make you feel?
  • During your morning, what tasks do you enjoy/dislike most?
  • If you could change one thing about your mornings at work, what would that be?

Other areas of work where you can build questions are:

  • How your job is structured — breaks/task structure
  • When you leave work and how you get home
  • Relationships with people at work (managers and teams)
  • Reward, recognition, and development opportunities

Address the pain points

Any of the resources you use — this newsletter, books, or any online resources — require you to put time and work into better understanding you. However, that can raise issues.

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Pain point #1 — I don’t have time

Time is a commodity that we all have in equal measure. Elon Musk developed Tesla, Space X, and many other initiatives in the same 24 hours that we have. Steve Jobs did the same with Apple. Oprah Winfrey and Arianna Huffington are more entrepreneurs who’ve created successful businesses in the same chunks of time that we have.

Pain point #2 — I don’t have a specific framework to follow

My aim for this platform is to arm you with the frameworks you need to help you to craft a career that you love. Whether that’s reshaping the job you’re currently in or finding your way to an entirely new career. These newsletters are aimed at helping you to create a more fulfilling work life.

Pain point #3 — My results don’t relate to a specific career path or job. Now what?

This is when job/career re-crafting can help. Check out my previous newsletter on how to re-craft your career to find work you love.

And, you’re on your way to a brighter future

You’ve now completed both the ‘Getting to Know You’ and ‘Diving deeper’ activities. Or, if you haven’t completed ‘Getting to Know You,’ you’ve made a start, and soon, you’ll have in-depth insights into what you and don’t enjoy at work. Armed with these insights, and information from my previous newsletter about how to re-craft your career, you are well on your way to reshaping your work so that it fulfills you.

But, don’t expect change to happen overnight

Change takes time. While you’re assessing your current career situation, and planning what you want to do next, you need to keep paying the bills. So, don’t rush. Take your time to learn about yourself, think about what’s next, and prepare to make changes. When you’re ready to take the leap, you’ll do so with a solid plan. With persistence, courage, and a structure, you can love to work.



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Let’s Love to Work

Let’s Love to Work

Organizational Psychologist, Career Coach, and Author. Helping you love to work.